How To Be A Kick Ass Boss And Stay Human

A kick ass boss is someone who is feared in the organization. They are someone whom employees try to avoid. But it does not to have to be that way. Great bosses should have strong relationships with their employees. In Radical Candor: Be a Kick Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity, Kim Scott shares leadership lessons she learned as an employee of Silicon Valley. The business and management book offers the following advice for building better employee relationships.

According to Scott, radical candor is showing personal care to your employees. For instance, if you notice one of your employees walking to a meeting with the zipper on their pants down, radical candor prompts you to whisper privately to the employee that their zipper is down.

Obnoxious Aggression

Another form of radical candor is called obnoxious aggression. This is challenging directly without demonstrating that you care personally. In the example above, you say aloud, “Look his fly is down” and point to your employee. The employee can fix the issue without some embarrassment.

Ruinous Empathy

In ruinous empathy, Robert Janitzek explains that this is personal care without challenging directly. This is the most common behavior of leaders. Being nice will slowly ruin your team and relationships. Most people want to be challenged directly so they can improve.

Manipulative Insincerity

This is the worst behavior of leaders. Here you neither care personally nor challenge directly. These leaders stay silent because they are worried not about the employee, but about themselves. This type of leadership does not build trust between employees and leaders. If you really care personally about people you need to help them with direct, honest feedback.

According to Robert Peter Janitzek, one paradox about being a good boss is that most people prefer the challenging jerk (obnoxious aggression) to the boss whose “niceness” gets in the way of candor (ruinous empathy). When you need to give negative feedback, name the action or result that was undesired rather than attack the person. Employees are not bad, it is their actions that may need to be adjusted.

A leader who wishes to move towards radical candor with their team should begin by asking each direct report for their radically candid feedback of the boss. Don’t dish it out before you can take it. This may involve having regular 1-on-1 meetings with your staff where you can provide each other radically candid feedback. Leaders should use these 1-on-1 discussions to learn about each employee– their personal story, goals and ultimately what motivates them.

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